Well our dossier has officially been in Russia for two months! I wonder if it has even been translated yet? For those of you who are further along in waiting, did your agency call you to tell you when your dossier was translated or registered? Maybe because we are hoping to adopt two children, and our dossier stays in Moscow until a region opens up...maybe it just sits there until that happens? I don't think I understand that process.... Anyone have any insight?
I know if we were adopting just one little girl, our dossier would go to the region that was best suited for us. Then it would be translated and would be registered with the local Ministry of Education. Then when a match was found in that region, depending on where we are in line, we might have a referral. But I guess I just don't comprehend the wait and process for a sibling group. (Only that it is looonnnnggg). :-)
I suppose the beginning and end of this process is when God says it's going to start and when He provides the little ones he wants for Chris and I.
Speaking of little ones. I had such a sweet moment last week just playing with and carrying around a friend's little daughter. (under 2). Oh what a joy she was to chase after, giggling and turning around to see if I was still following her. She has such an infectious laugh, and put a smile on my face that day at the park. I just am so thankful God gave me that moment to have, as it stirred up the desire in my heart for those little girls he may have waiting for us.
Sometimes in the waiting, and not being physically pregnant, it doesn't "feel" like you are even in the process of adopting. Sometimes it seems so far removed from everyday life.... I've heard this is a normal feeling of adoptive parents. It's weird.... I wish I could describe it. Sort of detached, and then I suppose as things get closer, or when you are at the referral stage things become more real. The only part of this stage that to me seems tangible is our dossier. This I have gathered, typed, stapled, held in my hands, and then released off to a foreign country. This inanimate item is the most tangible thing I have to this adoption right now. So, that is why I treasure moments that are given to me.... (like the one in the park with my friend's daughter). It reminds me that there is a child (or children) at the end of this process. Children who need us as much as we need them.
Wednesday, October 3, 2007
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Hi Jackie! Our dossier has been in Russia for just over 2 months so we're in the same place you are. From what I understand (and I could be wrong!), we do not hear anything once the dossier has been translated. I think the next thing you hear is when you have a referral. Your situation may be different since you're requesting siblings though.
I absolutely agree with you about not feeling like you're in the process from time to time. Sometimes I get so wrapped up in everything else that it takes something (like accreditation rumors) to pull me back into it. Maybe it's a good thing that it's easy to walk away from it for a bit but it still does make it a daunting process.
I hope things move quickly for you... it seems like referrals are starting to pick up now that the summer is over. Fingers crossed!
Becky
I am praying daily for your family and the children that God has in store for you. And you are welcome to play with my little one anytime. :)
We did not hear when our dossier was translated but told the next call would be the referral call. Of course I check in once a month faithfully to see what's going on.
I try to take time away from the adoption process so as not to dwell on the wait and I think that it is helpful to do that.
Hopefully referrals will keep coming!
Hi, Jackie,
We did not hear anything when our dossier was translated/registered either. We waited until we got the referral call!
I also had many of the same feelings you are experiencing, working with so many women who were physically expecting babies through pregnancy was difficult for me at times. I don't think it was real for many of our friends and family either until they saw the picture of our son. If you would like to do things to make it seem more real, I would suggest these things that helped me: keep in contact with other waiting families, work on a gift registry (even if you have to change it later, it makes it seem more real), and start decorating or at least planning ideas for bedrooms for the children. These helped me feel more "pregnant" every day :O)
Beware: It will become sooooo real when you have that referral and especially once you've met your little ones! The hardest part comes when you have met your child(ren) and have to wait to return to bring them home!
I hope your referral call comes soon! I heard it so many times and didn't truly let myself believe it, but I now completely believe that God will bring you together with your children at just the right time.
Jackie,
Know that you are in our thoughts and prayers. I can only imagine how hard it must be to wait especially not knowing what region you will be going and how long the process will take. Just knowing that you are adopting siblings and allowing two sweet little girls to remain sisters together in your home warms my heart. I think that is such a wonderful thing you are doing to be patient on God (b/c this adds time to your adoption) and bring home two children who need a loving home who would not want to be adopted without the other one there too. And to know that they will always have each other.
We will continue to pray for you during your wait!
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